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Here’s How to Show Clients You Don’t Really Care

By Merrilyn Astin Tarlton

You don’t need a holiday to show clients you care, but when confronted with mountains of heart-shaped boxes and an avalanche of sweetheart sales, it’s only natural to ponder the question, “Who loves ya, baby?”

Valentine’s Day serves as an annual reminder that good feelings between you and your client are essential if you want to keep their love (and your law practice) going strong. Unfortunately, if you’re human, instead of gratitude or respect, you may be expressing the exact opposite.

Let Me Count the Ways

Here’s a reminder of little things you may be doing to send your client the message you don’t really care.

1. Answer your phone while meeting with her. Taking your attention away from the client in the room to speak with someone far away (or worse, check a text) sends the message that the one in the room is not nearly as important as the one on the line — and that you hesitate not the slightest to consume her valuable time to carry on other business. Just turn the ringer off when you’re with a client. If you forget and it rings, don’t answer it — turn it off! (Consider this: Ignoring your ringing phone while in your client’s company is a clear signal that nothing could be more important than her.)

2. Come late to a client meeting. As with the phone, the more of my time you waste, the more I see that I’m a minor player in your life. Never make a client wait in the conference room, your reception area, in a restaurant or on the street. Of course, you can’t always be perfectly on time. But in your absence, a colleague or assistant should be there to express your dismay and manage expectations.

3. Make him leave several phone messages (or emails) before you respond. Set a standard in your law office and hold to it. Many use the 24-hour rule, but surely you can do better than respond to a message within 24 hours? Especially when that doesn’t mean you have to be the one to get back to a client. Enlist the help of your assistant to respond with information about your availability and when you will call. It’s simple politeness, really.

4. Treat deadlines like rough estimates. Under-promise and over-deliver is the best rule of thumb here. If you say those papers will be ready on Thursday, make it at least Thursday morning. But Wednesday would be even better. It’s a habit we all slip into: Wanting to please people up-front with how quickly you say the job will get done, and then failing over and over again to do what you’ve said. It’s far better to cite a realistic deadline and challenge yourself to surpass it. Your client’s happy surprise will make it worth the trouble. (And it’s so much better than grumpy disappointment!)

5. Fail to show empathy. People hire lawyers to advocate for them — sit on the same side of the table. Hold your adversarial chops at bay until your next day in court and bring out your ability to understand what works and doesn’t work for your client. That doesn’t mean you should sugarcoat the truth or keep bad news to yourself. Quite the reverse! If you find yourself trying to prove your client wrong or battling with her about what she can and cannot do, take a deep breath and start again — with the resolve to do whatever you can ethically to help your client.

A Sweet Reminder: Little Ways to Show You Care

If you want your clients to know you are grateful for their business and you care for their outcomes, bear the following guidance in mind:

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Merrilyn Astin Tarlton Merrilyn Astin Tarlton

Merrilyn is the author of “Getting Clients: For Lawyers Starting Out or Starting Over.” She has been helping lawyers and law firms think differently about the business of practicing law since 1984. She is a founding member of the Legal Marketing Association, an LMA Hall of Fame inductee, and a past President of the College of Law Practice Management. Merrilyn was a founding partner of Attorney at Work. 

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