Play to Win

Dealing With an Upset Client

By | Jun.22.17 | Business Development, Client Relations, Client Service, Daily Dispatch, Relationships

It’s almost a certainty that, at some point, every lawyer will have an unhappy client. In his seminal research on loyalty, business strategist Frederick Reichheld concluded that simply satisfying clients is not enough to retain them. Research showed that depending on the industry, between 65 and 85 percent of customers or clients who defected said they were satisfied or very satisfied with the company they abandoned.

They left because they didn’t like the experience.

This is perfectly demonstrated by a client feedback interview I conducted a few years back. My client, the law firm, had delivered a major victory for its client — much greater than anyone expected. Yet that client no longer sent business to the firm. Why? According to the in-house lawyer, “I didn’t like working with them. They were arrogant and non-collaborative.”

I was recently reminded of the proper (or, should I say, improper) way of handling an upset client after I waited 25 minutes past my scheduled haircut appointment time. In my situation, getting a decent haircut wasn’t going to be enough to make me happy with the stylist; the experience was negative. The same holds true for your clients. Maybe they’re angry that you didn’t call back. Maybe they’re annoyed that they had to wait for 15 minutes in the lobby. Maybe they’re disappointed that their bill was twice what they expected.

Whatever the situation, here are some thoughts on how both of you can get through the issue with your relationship intact.

Steps for Diffusing the Situation

Depending on the issue, clients’ reactions could range from mild displeasure to outright anger. Try these tips for dealing with someone who is upset.

Don’t get defensive. Stay calm and let clients vent a bit about the problem. Hopefully, they will not be rude or abusive — that’s another issue — but it’s best if they can let off a little steam. Nod your head. Make good eye contact. Don’t cross your arms. Paraphrase or confirm what they’ve said.

Apologize. The first words out of your mouth should be some form of “I’m sorry.” If you are in the wrong, say “I’m sorry.” However, even if you didn’t do anything wrong per se, you can still be sorry that the client is upset. “I’m sorry you had that experience” or “I’m sorry you are disappointed with our services” are versions that may be appropriate. By the way, “I take responsibility” or “Thank you for telling me” are not equivalent to “I’m sorry.”

Drill down to identify the real issue. For me, it was a lack of communication: No one at the stylist’s bothered to fill me in on the delay. Ask questions and be an active listener to get to the root of the problem. Did that large bill make them look bad to their superiors? Would they have appreciated a heads-up about the deposition being canceled?

Jointly problem-solve to identify a reasonable solution. What does the client hope will happen next? Be open to ideas for resolving the complaint. If clients are dissatisfied with your responsiveness, will you promise a certain turnaround time on calls or emails? If clients are unhappy with your ongoing communications, will you develop a more formal status reporting mechanism?

Don’t promise what you can’t deliver. If you are not the billing partner, for example, you might not be able to agree to reduce the invoice without approval. However, you can tell the client your next step is to inquire what can be done.

Follow up. Be dogged in making sure whatever is promised gets delivered, and as quickly as possible. The speed with which you deal with a problem makes a difference in how clients perceive your dedication to them. If the ball is in someone else’s court, make sure they do what they are supposed to do. And then follow up with clients to thank them for bringing the issue to your attention and to ensure they are satisfied with the solution.

While it may not feel like it, a client who complains is a good thing. It not only gives you a chance to fix the issue, it can actually build loyalty by demonstrating your commitment. How you handle the problem can be a defining moment in your client relationship.

Sally J. Schmidt is President of Schmidt Marketing, Inc., which offers marketing services to law firms. Sally was a founder and the first President of the Legal Marketing Association. She is a Fellow of the College of Law Practice Management and was one of the first inductees into the LMA's Hall of Fame. She is the author of "Marketing the Law Firm: Business Development Techniques" and "Business Development for Lawyers: Strategies for Getting and Keeping Clients." Sally writes Attorney at Work's "Play to Win" column. Follow her on Twitter @SallySchmidt.

Illustration ©iStockPhoto.com

Subscribe to Attorney at Work

Get really good ideas every day: Subscribe to the Daily Dispatch and Weekly Wrap (it’s free). Follow us on Twitter @attnyatwork.

Sponsored Links

Recommended Reading

One Response to “Dealing With an Upset Client”

  1. Mike O'Horo
    23 June 2017 at 10:32 am #

    As I tell any company with which I’m having a problem, “OK, what’s happened has happened. What happens next is what’s important. There’s going to be a story about this, and you get to decide which version, right now. Will I tell everyone a brand-strengthening version along the lines of “I can’t believe what they did to make this right,” or will it be “I can’t believe they didn’t care enough to make this right”?

    When I was first out of college, I ran a jewelry store. Here’s how we were trained to handle customer complaints:
    1) Listen to the customer’s tale, without interrupting
    2) Feed it back to them accurately, and explicitly confirm that you understand correctly. “Do I have that right?”
    3) “I’m sorry. We should never have allowed that to happen.”
    4) “What would make you happier than you thought was possible when you came in to report this?” In silence, wait for a reply. If they begin to rehash the story, let them go through it again, uninterrupted. Each time, it loses some of its intensity and emotion. Reconfirm that you understand correctly. Then, repeat the question: “What would make you happier than you thought was possible when you came in to report this?”
    5) Do whatever that is, as quickly as possible, without regard to expense or difficulty. This is your brand-value moment. No transaction amount is too much to protect your brand. Announce the quickest time frame that you’re sure can be honored, and ask if that’s good enough. It will be. “I’ll be in touch with you no later than [date] to make sure everything’s as promised.”
    6) Contact them on (preferably before) that date to confirm that the solution happened as promised.
    7) Ask if your solution and timing hit the high bar you promised, i.e., that they’re happier than they thought they would be at the time they were upset.
    8) If “yes,” ask if this puts everything to bed for them. If “no,” return to Step 1.

    Numbers 4 and 5 are critical. Allow the aggrieved customer to define the remedy. They won’t be prepared for your carte blanche offer. It will eliminate the last trace of anger. They’ll ask for much less than you would have offered. It will be their solution, not yours, and they’ll forever tell the story of how they got to choose what they wanted.


Comment