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Managing Holiday Stress: A Guide for Lawyers

By Jamie Spannhake

Managing holiday stress is an uphill climb on a snowy hill until you identify what stresses you most.

The holiday season is filled with joy and celebration — and an extra layer of stress as we juggle workloads, client expectations, personal responsibilities and end-of-year deadlines. This time of year can involve tight deadlines and pressure to wrap up open matters and finalize billing. Add to that the social obligations, family gatherings and seasonal travel, and it’s no wonder many of us find the holiday season more overwhelming than relaxing.

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But holiday stress can be managed with practical strategies that include setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care and making time for what matters most.

Preparation: Identify Your Main Stressors

Before diving into specific stress management techniques, it’s important to identify what triggers holiday stress for you. Everyone’s sources of stress are different, and pinpointing yours will help you create a targeted plan for relief. For many lawyers, common holiday stressors include balancing increased client demands, meeting year-end goals, and feeling pressure to be available 24/7 despite the season. On top of professional obligations, personal responsibilities — like shopping, traveling, and hosting or attending family gatherings — can add to the strain.

Take a few moments to list your main stressors this season. Is it the pressure of completing all your work by year’s end? The expectations to meet specific billable hours? Or perhaps it’s the challenge of blending work and family commitments without feeling pulled in every direction. By recognizing these stressors upfront, you can approach them with a clear mind and create solutions that work for you.

Once you have identified your specific sources of stress in the upcoming season, use these five proactive strategies to reduce stress, maintain productivity and enjoy the season. 

1. Plan Ahead for Time Off and to Manage Your Workload

End-of-year work and personal holiday obligations can compete for your time, making the season extra stressful. By planning ahead, you can protect your personal time without neglecting your work responsibilities. Start by assessing your workload and prioritizing tasks that need to be completed by year’s end.

Once you have a clear view of your work priorities, set deadlines for them well in advance. Delegate any work you can to your team or use automated tools for tasks like follow-ups, document management and client communications. This proactive approach will help you wrap up work efficiently, freeing up more time for family, friends and relaxation during the holidays.

2. Set Boundaries at Work and at Home

Setting boundaries is key to managing stress, especially during the holiday season. A legal career often demands long hours and constant availability. With the end-of-year crunch, clients may push for quick responses and last-minute meetings. But setting clear boundaries, both at work and home, can protect your time and energy, allowing you to enjoy the holiday season without burnout.

Start by communicating your availability to clients and colleagues early. If your office will be closed or you’re planning to take time off, let them know as far in advance as possible. Then set up an automatic email response to manage expectations while you’re away. At home, establish boundaries around personal time, whether it’s setting specific hours for checking emails or taking designated “no work” days for family events or self-care. Setting limits doesn’t make you less dedicated; it allows you to recharge so you can be at your best.

3. Prioritize Self-Care, Mindfulness and Stress-Reduction Techniques

Lawyers are used to taking care of clients, but the holiday season is a critical time to prioritize our own well-being. Stress management is much more effective when you’re physically and mentally resilient, which is why self-care practices are essential.

Incorporate small but meaningful acts of self-care into your daily routine. This could mean committing to getting a full night’s sleep, even if it means leaving work unfinished for the next day. Exercise, even in short bursts, can also be incredibly effective in relieving stress — try a quick walk, a brief yoga session, or stretching exercises during the day. Don’t overlook the power of small mental breaks to lift your mood and ease tension. Try listening to music, reading a book, or even practicing gratitude for a few minutes a day.

Also incorporate mindfulness and stress-reduction techniques as an effective way to manage holiday pressures, both in and out of the office. Mindfulness involves being present in the moment, helping you stay calm even during hectic periods. Practicing mindfulness doesn’t require hours of meditation. Simple techniques like deep breathing or grounding exercises can do wonders.

Try starting your day with a few minutes of mindful breathing to set a calm tone. Alternatively, you might incorporate short breaks throughout the day where you step away from your desk and refocus. Visualizing a peaceful place, counting breaths or stretching can all help you recharge and stay present. Consider exploring a meditation app if you’re new to mindfulness — many offer guided practices that you can use during the day’s busiest moments.

Visualizing a Peaceful Place

4. Manage Your Own Expectations

Lawyers are no strangers to high standards, but the holiday season can add an extra layer of pressure to meet both personal and professional expectations. Rather than aiming for an idealized version of the holidays, focus on what’s truly important to you, whether that’s spending quality time with family, achieving specific work goals or simply finding moments of rest. Give yourself permission to decline extra commitments or let go of work tasks that aren’t essential. By managing your own expectations, you can find a healthy balance between productivity and personal fulfillment, which can make the holidays feel more enjoyable and less demanding.

5. Set Realistic Goals for the Holiday Season

It’s tempting to try to do everything during the holidays: finalize cases, meet billable hours, attend every family event, and still seek time to relax. But setting realistic goals is crucial to avoiding overwhelming stress. Instead of trying to complete every task on your list, focus on high-impact activities that align with your priorities.

Start by identifying your top work obligations for the end of the year, whether it’s closing important cases or preparing for January deadlines. Set clear, achievable goals for these tasks and recognize that it’s OK to leave some work for the new year. On the personal side, decide which holiday traditions or gatherings mean the most to you and focus your energy there.

Holiday stress is an undeniable part of the season, but with a few proactive strategies, you can manage it effectively. Remember, it’s not about doing it all. It’s about finding the balance that lets you enjoy both your work and your personal time. Taking these steps will not only reduce stress but also help you enter the new year with a renewed sense of purpose and well-being.

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Jamie Jackson Spannhake is a writer, coach for lawyers, and speaker. She helps busy lawyers create lives they truly want, lives with time and space to do all the things she was told she couldn’t do as a successful lawyer. Her work with clients is based upon the principles in her book, “The Lawyer, the Lion, & the Laundry.” She spent nearly 20 years practicing law in New York and Connecticut, in BigLaw, as a solo, and as a partner in a small firm. Learn more about her at JamieSpannhake.com, or connect with her on LinkedIn.

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