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Five Ways to Combat Apathy and Feel Good Again
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The Friday Five

Five Ways to Combat Apathy and Feel Good Again

“Does any of it really matter?” we ask. The answer, of course, is yes.

By Jamie Spannhake

Right now, a lot of people (including me) are struggling with apathy. Apathy is defined as a “lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern.” Basically, it’s a feeling that we experience as not feeling. It’s an emotion defined by a lack of emotion.

During this pandemic, many of us have newfound free time as work has slowed and extracurricular activities are canceled. In “normal” times, we’ve yearned for extra hours to catch up on some long-standing personal to-dos: things like home improvement projects, getting fit, cooking more, spending time on hobbies, and the like. Yet, now that we have the time, we can’t seem to find the energy to do anything on that long list. And we also can’t motivate to do some of the things we “need” to do, or are simply tasked with doing.

“Does any of it really matter?” we ask, with all that’s happening around us.

The answer is yes, but maybe not for the reasons you think.

Life derives its meaningfulness from our engagement with it. When we don’t engage, life is boring to us, and nothing seems to matter. While it may be counterintuitive, the best way to avoid apathy is to re-engage. It’s a wicked circle, though, because how do you engage with enthusiasm when you don’t have any enthusiasm to engage?

Five Ways to Flip Apathy Into Enthusiasm

Here are five ways to increase your energy and enthusiasm so that apathy becomes interest again!

1. Get Some Sleep

When you don’t get sufficient sleep, it can chip away at your happiness and mental health, negatively affecting your energy, motivation and emotions. It can even lead to clinical symptoms of depression and anxiety. The negative side effects of sleep deprivation disrupt your sleep leading to even more negative effects. If you are finding it difficult to fall asleep, make sure  you go device-free for at least an hour before bed. And don’t read the news right before bed! Also, avoid caffeine in the afternoon because it can take up to 10 hours for your body to fully rid itself of caffeine. To get back on track, try melatonin or magnesium before bed to help you fall asleep.

Related content: “Start Sleeping Better Tonight: 3 Tips for a More Restful Night”

2. Move Your Body

When you’re apathetic, it can be extremely challenging to motivate to exercise. Rather than trying to persuade yourself to work out, think instead about ways to move your body. Moving your body, whether it is walking, dancing, playing tag with your kids or practicing yoga, will increase your sense of well-being. This, in turn, will increase your energy, improve your sleep, relax your body and decrease apathy. The more you move, the more energy and motivation you’ll have, so eventually you’ll feel ready for more: more movement, more hobbies, more interests. Commit to moving your body for at least 15-30 minutes on most days.

3. Connect With Others

Another effect of apathy is disengagement from others. Oftentimes, apathy makes us feel like we have nothing interesting to say, and nothing we care to know, so we don’t reach out to others. But this a mistake. Getting out of your own head can really help. To climb out of an apathetic attitude, connect with others. Start with people who know you well so you don’t feel the pressure to be “on” or “happy.” Maybe simply watching a movie with your spouse, or reading a book on the coach together with your housemate or child, can make you feel connected through a common interest. You can also connect with others through volunteer opportunities, which are yet another way to focus on a common interest in order to connect. Know someone sewing masks? Reach out to help. Know food banks that want volunteers to drive food to seniors? Give them a call. Do a little research to find an organization near you that needs assistance.

4. Avoid Doom and Gloom

Apathy can make us irritable. While we are quarantined at home with our families or housemates, we may find their habits irritating, even if those same habits didn’t bother us two months ago. Particularly irritating is a housemate who is all “doom and gloom.” As if it wasn’t enough that the world seems to be falling apart and our practices are in limbo, we have a spouse/partner/child/parent/person who is constantly negative and discussing only the worst that is happening in the world! To the extent you can, consider distancing yourself from this person. Ideas include driving further to a different grocery store to have some solitude in the car; taking a long shower; or going for an extended walk. You can also include this person in your anti-apathy activities – maybe it will help mitigate their “doom and gloom.”

5. Try Something New

Sometimes “spicing things up a bit” is a good way to break away from apathy. Since nothing may seem interesting, you might have to force yourself — yes, force yourself — to come up with something to try, and then to actually do it. Many online platforms offer a variety of courses on topics from art, music, dancing and wine tasting, to writing, business and academic subjects. You can also find free live classes on Instagram and Facebook, and many recorded programs and classes on YouTube.

Whatever you decide to try on any given day, do not delay! If you delay more than a few minutes, you’re likely to talk yourself out of doing it. When you have an idea, try it now.

Here’s to feeling again, and feeling good!

Related: “Five Ways to Reduce Anxiety in a Worldwide Pan(dem)ic”

*Statements made on this website have not been evaluated by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration. Any information or products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Information provided by this website or this company is not substitute for individual medical advice.

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Jamie Spannhake

Jamie Spannhake is a lawyer, mediator and certified health coach, and author of “The Lawyer, the Lion, & the Laundry.” She is a partner at Berlandi Nussbaum & Reitzas LLP, serving clients in New York and Connecticut, practicing in the areas of commercial litigation, estate planning, residential and commercial real estate, and business transactions. She writes and speaks on issues of interest to lawyers, including time and stress management, health and wellness, work-life balance, and effective legal writing. Follow her on Twitter @IdealYear.

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